That’s all that I can call the last two months of my life. I have planned, decorated and attended multiple graduation/birthday parties for our oldest son; hosted family & friends; lead Vacation Bible School class which involves singing and dancing; attended an awesome 50th birthday party of a dear friend; cleaned house; cycled through countless loads of laundry; taken the youngest (and friends) swimming numerous times; trekked up to Amish country with my buddy (and her 4 kiddos in tow); and the list goes on and on.
But as I’m living my little life, I’ve been pondering big questions and looking for answers. The first and foremost is this: “How do I parent this ‘adult’ that now resides in our house?”
To date, this has been the hardest part of parenting to me. I mean, I THOUGHT the potty training thing was going to do me in with all three, but this letting go stuff is for the birds! I now have another adult male sharing our space. And just like all other adult males I know, he desires to do this “thang” whether I like it (and most of the time, I’m not a fan) or not.
So, what is a parent to do? I can no longer ground him to his room, or take away his favorite toy (oh wait, there’s still the PS3), or treat him like a child. But as I see it, he’s still my boy and needs my help. There’s the trouble…he’s not a boy and I know it. I also know that some of the things he needs “help” with will only be corrected by learning the lesson himself…and with God‘s help and instruction, not mine.
For any parent, this is hard; letting your child go to make mistakes, “buy” some hard lessons and even on occasion, in the beginning, FLY! But why has it been so hard for me? I mean, I am a Christian and have always held to the belief that God is ultimately the one who cares for my children and I have been given to opportunity to teach and nurture them until adulthood. So, why the struggle?
Could this situation be revealing some issues that I need to deal with? “Do I really trust God with my child’s well-being?” I mean, “Will he really take care of him like I will?” HA! What a thought…someone smack me! Did that really just come across my mind? Yes it did, and I am most certain it crosses the mind of every parent out there that has a relationship with Christ.
I have come to believe that this stage in life is not only a time of growth for our children, but for us as well. God is calling us to put our “stated faith” into “action faith.” This is not for the faint hearted and much prayer and study of the Word of God gets us through it. That’s what I’ve been doing in preparation for our son’s departure to South Africa on a mission trip.
His first time to fly – 22 hours. His first time to be in a foreign country. His first time to be on a separate continent from his mama. His first time to be alone…with God. And God has told me that it’s good and I can trust HIM with my boy.
I can’t wait to hear of his trip and experience with God without mom or dad and I can’t wait to tell him how God is changing me.
Fly, Isaac, fly!!!!!
Back row – L to R: Matt, Isaac
Front row – L to R: Amy, Cassie